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You’re not. You’re really not. I know, you think you are. You think you’re the only one who has issues. You think you’re the only one who has messed up, made mistakes. But you’re not.
Of course, you can’t tell everyone how messed up you are. That would shatter the image, ruin the facade. After all, what would people think? What would all those perfect people think if they knew you weren’t perfect too?
But here’s the truth. They’re not perfect either. They’re pretending. They’ve messed up too. They’ve made mistakes. They’ve made bad decisions.
Here’s more. Their kids aren’t perfect. On Facebook they appear to be, but in reality they’re not. And their marriages? They fight and fuss. They argue about sex and money and where to eat, just like you and your spouse. They go through good times and then they hit a rough patch.
And their past. Oh boy, their past. They can’t seem to move beyond the mistake they made in high school, the sin they committed in college. They carry around those past sins and over the years those sins have gotten really heavy. They can’t seem to escape the guilt and shame.
But that’s not all. Sometimes they’re tired. Really, really tired. They’re tired from looking after children, taking care of aging parents, volunteering at church and working all day. They’re just tired.
Sometimes they’re sad. They cry. Sometimes they’re upset and don’t know what to do. They’re sad because their dad died. They’re sad because they lost their job. They’re sad because their finances are a mess. They’re just sad.
Sometimes they’re clueless. You’d never know it. They seem so self-assured. But they really don’t know what to do. Their job and intellect and connections can’t seem to solve the problem. And that’s how they usually solve the problem, but this time it’s not working. They don’t know what to do.
So, if you’re struggling with guilt, shame, past mistakes, or current failures, then I want you to know you’re not the only one. You’re not the oddball. In fact, you’re in good company.
You see, we live in a broken world filled with broken people. We just do. And most of us could use a little encouragement, a little help, a pat on the back. We just need one of God’s children to love us, tell us we’re going to make it, and accept us in all our brokenness.
You’re not the only one. You’re really not.
Craig Fry / CLC President